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Intimacy and Autonomy: A Balancing Act

Intimacy and Autonomy: A Balancing Act

Intimacy and Autonomy: A Balancing Act How do we love a beloved other through moments of oneness—that sense of merging—yet still sustain our autonomy? The tightrope this question implies is one I have walked my entire adult life, often stumbling, then righting myself and trying again. I am a practitioner of unconditional love. This doesn’t mean I like everyone. It means I love the essence of who they are—not separate from the divine. (This remains true even when I may abhor their behavior.) “Practitioner” doesn’t mean I’m perfect, but that I attempt to meet the world, and the beings in it, with abundant and unconditional love. And I understand that when I slip, I am [...]

Intimacy and Autonomy: A Balancing ActAmy2026-04-08T12:09:58-07:00

Living in the Eye of the Storm + free practices

Living in the Eye of the Storm + free practices

Lately it feels like the news is full of what I call the “smite” stories — the “vanquishing our enemies” or “God is on our side” kind of headlines and quotes. Doesn’t it seem as if our world is becoming more violent, more divisive, more distrustful of the other? The constant stream of graphic images and minute-by-minute updates can make it feel as if the storm is raging everywhere. Yet the evidence tells a somewhat different story. The most violent time in human history, based on the examination of 3,500 human skeletons, appears to have been between 1200 and 400 BCE. While violence certainly still exists today, research shows that it tends to wax and [...]

Living in the Eye of the Storm + free practicesAmy2026-03-11T14:15:28-07:00

The Courage to Love: An Antidepressant for Our Times

The Courage to Love: An Antidepressant for Our Times

What’s the antidote — the antidepressant — for the fear so many of us are carrying right now? The fear that shows up as anger, grief, or simple exhaustion? I think there are two medicines. The first is the courage to love. The second, in Anne Lamott’s words, is gratitude for all that remains. Lamott writes: “How do we shine a little brighter? Gratitude is brightening. Gratitude for all that remains, no matter how much the locusts have eaten, is a subversive act.” In a time when trust feels shaken and the things we learned about democracy seem less certain, that kind of brightness matters. It’s quiet, but it’s powerful. So how do we shine [...]

The Courage to Love: An Antidepressant for Our TimesAmy2026-02-11T11:54:46-07:00

On Listening

On Listening

As I write, we as humans on this planet are in the midst of holiday festivities—or perhaps a quieter, more contemplative time. As you read this, you may be in recovery from the holidays. I can’t help but notice what my inbox looks like this time of year, when “Primary” feels more like “Promotions,” and “Promotions” feels completely out of control. By sending my monthly(ish) newsletter, I realize I’m adding to that noise. What does that mean? Maybe it points to something universal: a need to be heard. The human cry goes up—just listen to me! (Though right now there’s also a lot of just buy me.) Despite broadcasting my thoughts here (yes, I see the irony), I want [...]

On ListeningAmy2026-02-11T07:58:50-07:00

Gratitude Isn’t Always Simple

Gratitude Isn’t Always Simple

For many, gratitude comes easily this week. For others, this season stirs up complicated memories — and both experiences are real. Some hurts are small and fade quickly; others shape us in profound ways. Even those deeper wounds can reveal surprising gifts when we’re ready to look at them. What Research Tells Us Much has been written about the uplifting effects of gratitude, making lists, counting our blessings, and some research shows that gratitude practices can reduce depression. When compared to neutral writing (journaling), the effect was small, but significant. So, it may help, especially in times of confusion and uncertainty, times like these. Reframing Changes Everything A technique I learned when I read The Goddess Within by Jungian psychologist Roger [...]

Gratitude Isn’t Always SimpleAmy2025-11-28T08:24:41-07:00

Awakening Through Depression ✨

Awakening Through Depression ✨

Who is the “I am” you tell yourself you are? What is your mission—your dharma, your raison d’être? The journey begins by discovering who this “I am” truly is. It isn’t as hard as it seems when you have tools that help clear the constrictions of story and mood. Even for a moment, you can glimpse your own true nature. True nature is called by many names in many cultures. But it is not just a concept. Thoughts and beliefs about true nature are still too small to contain it. True nature is a felt sense—wordless and profound. Paths and Silence My own journey of discovery has followed many paths. What they share is a settling into the silence [...]

Awakening Through Depression ✨Amy2025-10-15T11:13:38-07:00

Dancing Through Self-Limiting Beliefs

Dancing Through Self-Limiting Beliefs

Although I lived by the Atlantic Ocean for much of my adult life, I never learned to surf or sail. My childhood clumsiness created a self-limiting belief that followed me for decades—one I finally released through IFS and Yoga. I CAN'T SO I WON'T As a kid, being picked last for dodgeball was the norm. With athletic parents and an undiagnosed eye-muscle disorder, awkwardness on the playing field felt unavoidable. Labeled the “family klutz,” the safe choice became solo activities where no one else depended on performance—first dance, later yoga. Fast forward to today: in the early 70s, dancing is a joy-filled part of life. After years of believing partner dance was off-limits, Zydeco, Swing, and Salsa now prove [...]

Dancing Through Self-Limiting BeliefsAmy2025-09-07T18:42:41-07:00

When Outer Turmoil Moves Inside

When Outer Turmoil Moves Inside

Managing a Crisis - When Outer Turmoil Moves Inside... In a crisis, do you have a part that rises to the occasion, maybe even garnering praise from others for how well you are managing a major change? That’s certainly the case with me. That manager part kicks into action, and I feel focused and at the top of my game. There is neither time nor the desire for introspection or deep feelings. Then, when the outer turmoil subsides, what happens? If you’re like me, when things finally settle down, and I have the time to go inside, and that’s when the inner turmoil rises to the surface. Boy, it’s uncomfortable! But for me, it’s necessary. This is when [...]

When Outer Turmoil Moves InsideAmy2025-08-11T07:21:27-07:00

Decision Confusion…

Decision Confusion…

Lately, my path has been gnarly and shrouded in clouds, and I wondered if I should write you from a place of confusion. Although my practice keeps me balanced, somewhat focused, mostly grounded and feeling satisfied with my life, I was trying to make a major life decision, and it seemed out of reach. As I struggled not to distract myself too much with feel-good behaviors like dancing and walking in nature, or numbing-out behaviors like binging on chocolate, feelings of loss, grief and confusion revealed themselves. So, who am I to suggest a practice for clear-seeing, when a few days ago my go to's like meditating, praying, and journaling didn’t shine a light through my perplexity? It was already Saturday evening on the [...]

Decision Confusion…Amy2025-07-02T02:43:08-07:00

Testing Ourselves

Testing Ourselves

Are you drawn to test yourself—what’s my attachment style? What’s my personality type? What’s my enneagram number? What’s my astrological sign? What about testing measures like your mood, your memory, your intelligence, your grip strength, your push-up count? I can sometimes be found taking online surveys and consulting books on handwriting analysis and palm reading. It’s universal, I think, this desire to peg ourselves on the board—where do I stand? How do I compare? Self-knowledge is a good thing, if we don’t buy into the labels or let them define and limit us. We are so much more than a number on a scale. And it’s important to remember that no matter our label, our brains are malleable, especially, [...]

Testing OurselvesAmy2025-06-03T09:50:44-07:00

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