Do Not Disturb! Self-Care in progress.
Caring for Self What is your responsibility to your Self? Consider nourishing yourself by cultivating an organizing part who offers you time every morning to sit in silence and watch the birds at the feeder or reminds you to close your eyes and breathe consciously. Consider giving your manager part a bonus if they hang the "do not disturb" sign [...]
Confessions of a Nondualist in Troubled Times
Confessions of a Nondualist in Troubled Times While friends succumb to rage in this time of loss—of dominion over our bodies, of voting rights, of programs that feed, house and educate those who through racism or poverty have been denied equal opportunities, of programs that guarantee health care, of services and safety for LGBTQ communities, of safety for black, brown [...]
Intimacy and Autonomy: A Balancing Act
Intimacy and Autonomy: A Balancing Act How do we love a beloved other through moments of oneness—that sense of merging—yet still sustain our autonomy? The tightrope this question implies is one I have walked my entire adult life, often stumbling, then righting myself and trying again. I am a practitioner of unconditional love. This doesn’t mean I like everyone. It [...]
Living in the Eye of the Storm + free practices
Lately it feels like the news is full of what I call the “smite” stories — the “vanquishing our enemies” or “God is on our side” kind of headlines and quotes. Doesn’t it seem as if our world is becoming more violent, more divisive, more distrustful of the other? The constant stream of graphic images and minute-by-minute updates can make [...]
The Courage to Love: An Antidepressant for Our Times
What’s the antidote — the antidepressant — for the fear so many of us are carrying right now? The fear that shows up as anger, grief, or simple exhaustion? I think there are two medicines. The first is the courage to love. The second, in Anne Lamott’s words, is gratitude for all that remains. Lamott writes: “How do we shine [...]
On Listening
As I write, we as humans on this planet are in the midst of holiday festivities—or perhaps a quieter, more contemplative time. As you read this, you may be in recovery from the holidays. I can’t help but notice what my inbox looks like this time of year, when “Primary” feels more like “Promotions,” and “Promotions” feels completely out of control. By sending my [...]