Although I lived by the Atlantic Ocean for much of my adult life, I never learned to surf or sail. My childhood clumsiness created a self-limiting belief that followed me for decades—one I finally released through IFS and Yoga. I CAN'T SO I WON'T   As a kid, being picked last for dodgeball was the norm. With athletic parents and an undiagnosed eye-muscle disorder, awkwardness on the playing field felt unavoidable. Labeled the “family klutz,” the safe choice became solo activities where no one else depended on performance—first dance, later yoga. Fast forward to today: in the early 70s, dancing is a joy-filled part of life. After years of believing partner dance was off-limits, Zydeco, Swing, and Salsa now prove [...]

Managing a Crisis - When Outer Turmoil Moves Inside...    In a crisis, do you have a part that rises to the occasion, maybe even garnering praise from others for how well you are managing a major change? That’s certainly the case with me. That manager part kicks into action, and I feel focused and at the top of my game. There is neither time nor the desire for introspection or deep feelings. Then, when the outer turmoil subsides, what happens? If you’re like me, when things finally settle down, and I have the time to go inside, and that’s when the inner turmoil rises to the surface. Boy, it’s uncomfortable! But for me, it’s necessary. This is when [...]